Choosing Discernment over Judgment; A Journey, to Self-Kindness

Choosing Discernment over Judgment; A Journey, to Self-Kindness

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Embracing the Art of Discernment

In the interplay of life and work, we frequently find ourselves entangled in the trap of passing judgment. We tend to evaluate ourselves, others, and the situations we encounter. Yet there lies strength in embracing discernment as a way to move through our world with empathy and positivity.

The Burden of Judgment

Judgment can feel like a weight; it involves assessments and often carries negative implications. It steers us towards self-doubt and self-criticism, clouding our perceptions of others and the challenges we confront.

Quieting Self Criticism

The journey begins from within. Quieting self-criticism entails transitioning from a mindset of fault-finding to one rooted in empathy. Understanding that self-critique often emerges from expectations and an inclination towards perfectionism that benefits no one. By allowing ourselves room for imperfection, we pave the way for growth and development.

The Fruitlessness of Critiquing Others

Passing judgment on others is ultimately futile, often serving as a mirror reflecting more about our uncertainties than about those being judged.

Embracing the ability to understand others allows us to see them with empathy, recognize their journeys and obstacles, and not attach any value or significance to them.

Gaining Clarity, in Different Situations; Looking Beyond the Surface

Life presents us with situations that may lead us to make judgments. However, having discernment encourages us to recognize the nuances in scenarios, realizing that what seems like a setback could actually be an opportunity in disguise. This clear perspective is crucial in leadership roles, creating an environment where challenges are met with planning rather than hasty judgments.

Practicing Discernment

Discernment is a skill that blends intuition with reason, emotions, and logic. It requires us to slow down our thinking process and carefully consider the context, variables, and potential outcomes. This skill can be refined through mindfulness, introspection and consciously choosing to approach life from a nuanced viewpoint.

Fostering Discernment in Leadership

As leaders and influencers, it is our duty to promote a culture of discernment. This means establishing environments where open discussions are valued, diverse opinions are respected, and decisions are based on understanding rather than snap decisions.

And so…. Embrace Discernment for Personal Growth

Replacing judgment with discernment marks a step, toward leading a more fulfilling personal and professional life.

As a coach, I wholeheartedly support this change, assisting individuals and teams in looking beyond the obvious and leading with empathy and insight. When we perceive rather than criticize, we not only treat ourselves and others more fairly but also gain a deeper, more nuanced view of the world. This embodies leadership, reflecting the essence of our insightful human nature.

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